There seems to be a lot going on around here. It's more than being a newlywed, more than being pregnant. B and I have been very blessed with a few years of total bliss. It seems there may be a few bumps in the road coming up.
Things are fine, B and I are fantastic and the baby is right where he should be. We are excited for the future. There is now a hiccup in my master plan and that makes me uneasy. I woke-up this morning with that nervous feeling and it's still there.
My emotions seem to rotate from "everything will work out" to "how on Earth am I going to pull this off". I'm not sure which direction to head in or what my next step is and that is really unusual for me.
I was so used to such smooth sailing that turbulence has thrown me for a loop. We aren't completely unprepared and I am positive we will always land on our feet. I just wish I could see our destination or how we'll come to arrive there.
~sigh~
What do you do to ease your nerves?
I drink tea and watch the sun set. It sounds so cliche, but it's a great way to unwind and relax and let all my fears, worries, nerves just sort of melt away, you know?
ReplyDeleteI don't know what hiccups you're running into, but you can do it, I promise. If it's the baby you're worried about, don't. Babies aren't nearly as difficult as everyone makes them seem. They're time-consuming, but wonderful and I'll bet you'll be surprised how much your instinct just takes over =)
Good luck with that hiccup. I hope it's outweighed by all the very good things that are happening to you, and by your own evident ability to be cheerful and pragmatic.
ReplyDeleteI take a hot bath by candlelight... BY MYSELF! ahhhh...
ReplyDeleteI pray and breath.. The holy spirit can bring so much peace. He has our lives set forth and our paths are already made. So there is no need to hold onto the nerves/stress because he has it handled.
ReplyDeleteI play with pointy sticks. I cook/bake. I eat ice cream. I dig up and smoosh slugs in the garden. A little bit of mayhem always calms me down. And if none of those things work then I find something to organize. That is my ultimate nerve buster.
ReplyDeleteI am odd.
Drink! LOL - Actually, time alone is usually a good equalizer for me, think about all of the blessings you have and how when you've worried about things in the past, all has turned out ok.
ReplyDeleteHang in there! You're going to be ok and have a gorgeous babino...
I pray, and pray, and then pray some more. :) Things will work out, but I definitely know the feelings. {hugs}
ReplyDeletePrayer for me too. When my nerves make me feel I am about to come out of my skin I go lay down on my bed and tell God I am not getting up until I have peace again. Then I pour out my troubles until I feel at peace and can can leave it in His hands. If I am scared I repeat over and over in my mind I AM SAFE IN GOD until the fears disappear. Prayer never fails me, although sometimes there have been some mighty battles on that bed!
ReplyDeleteAnd most important is to stay in the NOW. We can really freak ourselves out imagining what might be coming. But is any of it happening now? If something difficult does happen you will have the strength to face it then but the right now is all you have to deal with at the moment. And right now is usually ok--so don't get ahead of yourself.
There is a gorgeous poem on this subject, I'll go see if I can find the link.
Take care Dandy, all is well.
Jaxx
I get on my face and pray. I also eat up the Bible. It's really the only thing that gives me peace. I can send you some great sciptures if you want. Email me anytime if you need a listening ear...I'll be praying for you.
ReplyDeleteFound it,
ReplyDeleteI AM
I was regretting the past
and fearing the future.
Suddenly my Lord was speaking:
"My name is I AM"
He paused.
I waited. He continued,
"When you live in the past
with its mistakes and regrets,
it is hard. I am not there.
My name is not I WAS.
When you live in the future,
with its problems and fears,
it is hard. I am not there.
My name is not I WILL BE.
When you live in this moment
it is not hard. I am here,
My name is I AM."
Helen Mallicoat
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Jaxx
Worry is the worst part of life's hiccups. Things work out just as they should, even if it's not how we planned. Work with what you can and let go of the rest, don't dwell on things you can't control. I'm a master worrier so I'm "preaching to the choir" (especially when I'm pregnant!!) and praying to God is where I run when I can't let go of things I can't fix and become consumed with worry.
ReplyDeleteI hope you find peace.
☺ Celeste
A nice bath is always wonderful with a bit of lavender/sweet orange bath salts.... MMMMMM
ReplyDeleteThe other is a nice massage. That can't be beat.
Now relax and let things come and enjoy the ride!
:-) Take Care
The rosary ... even though I'm no longer considered a Catholic ... I still pray the rosary. It has gotten me through many tough situations throughout the years.
ReplyDelete... And if there is nothing else that this blogging business has shown you it's that writing is therapeutic! So write ... not here necessarily, but just for yourself. Write it all down ... hopes, fears, feelings ...
You are a strong girl, my dear, and you have a lot of wonderful support.
You'll be in my prayers.
Hoping everything works out for the best & am sending lots of positive thoughts your way. You and B are both amazing people and I know you'll be able to get through it together. If there's ever anything you need, don't hesitate to let me know! Love you!
ReplyDeleteWhat I tell myself is tha life is not supposed to be easy. The most interesting people are not the ones who have had it easy. They are the ones who have had it tough, but who have faced life's challenges with grace and courage. It isn't what happens to you that matters. It is your reaction that matters. Everyone gets bad stuff because that is life. You aren't in the boat alone. Sometimes it is just knowing that ~ really knowing that ~ that makes all of the difference.
ReplyDeleteI hope you're feeling better. Some of my good friends went through something very similar when they were expecting their first child. They took it one day at a time--and they still are over a year later. Everything worked out fine so far, and I am sure will continue so.
ReplyDeleteNever underestimate the impact of a deep breath. If one doesn't work, take another.
ReplyDeleteI am a major stress-baker. Turbulence in my life means an avalanche of baked goods.
Urgh life is so hard to predict isn't it? I often just wish for anything concrete when it feels like everything is up in the air and unknown. At the moment we have no idea where we're heading future-wise and it's HARD! What helps me is knowing that God is in control and he's not given up on me and won't in the future - not that that means an easy ride! I find knowing it's me and Dave in it together really comforting too!
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Oh sweetie...I'm so sorry... is this regarding what we talked about the other day on my "seeing people" post? (Just realized I'm being nosy, sorry. You can just tell me to knock it off.)
ReplyDeleteI seriously freak out. Lose sleep. Talk my man's ear off about all the "What if's," freak out some more, and then... when I'm a strung out, sleep deprived idiot without a voice from all the talking, I whisper a prayer to God. I have no idea why that tends to be my last resort. But I really see that prayer works and it does give me peace.
I am here for you any time! I mean that.
Love ya girl.
S
What's up?!?
ReplyDeleteWell, whatever it is, you've got an amazing partner and a whopper of a family.
None of them will ever let you fall.
For me, that's what calms my nerves. That, deep breathing, and stupid comedies.
No really! Stupid comedies I don't have to think about at ALL, like Not Another Teen Movie and the like. It helps shut my brain off awhile.
You will be okay.
ReplyDeleteI just always tell myself that it is LIFE. That is what happens. Each and every day. Sometimes it goes as you think it should and then sometimes, not so much.
Lately, I have been eating my nervousness away. I have to stop. Three pounds have popped up and it still doesn't solve the problem.
Believe me, it will all work out. Take care.
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ReplyDeleteI hope you find time to breathe. That always helps me, though I find myself holding my breath much of the time when nerves set in.
ReplyDeletePraying for you!
I usually work out, or at least go for a walk. It clears my head and let's me sort through whatever has got me nervous. If that doesn't work, I clean. I'm talking scrub the floors on my hands and knees, re-organize the hall closet kind of cleaning.
ReplyDeleteI hope everything works out. I hate that feeling, those unexpected hiccups in your plans. But if there's one thing I've learned from reading your blog is that if anyone can handle the hiccups, it's you!